Monthly Archives: December 2013

Recognise the King and Pawn in Yourself

“Once the game is over, the king and the pawn go back in the same box.” Anon

I don’t know anything about chess, but like any game, the results mean nothing in the scheme of things.  This was a big lesson for an old coach of mine who was playing monopoly with older family members.  Each time they pulled out the board she longed to win, to show them that she was worth taking notice of.  Then finally the day came when filled with excitement, she got to her goal.  But it was a very empty excitement when her mother called them for dinner & tipped the game back into a box.  What she learnt, it was just a game, that we need to let go of any attachment to the outcome as is the case in life.

However, the other lesson we can learn from this quote, is that within every shape or colour we are all the same.  No matter what we do in life whether the surgeon, the film star or the street sweeper, we are all the same.  We are all part of the universe like a cell of a body.  We all have a part to play, a strength that can benefit the whole.  So this other person who is either pushing your button or whom you admire, is just a reflection of yourself.  So take note where you might recognise the ‘king’ or ‘pawn’ in someone else & where you might find it in yourself.  This can be a helpful lesson.

Enjoy recognising the king or pawn in yourself!   Robyn  

And while doing this, have a great ‘R & R’ time over your break, so that 2014 doesn’t look too daunting.  It’s amazing what some connecting with friends and family can do to lower the stress levels

Never too old

“You are never too old to set another goal or dream a new dream.”  C.S. Lewis

If we have been conditioned to believe that we are going to be old at a certain age that is what is likely to happen.  Like the Henry Ford quote says, ”If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing, you’re right.”  The mind influence is a powerful ally or hindrance.  I listen to speakers who are in their 70s and 80s who are still wanting to spread their word and achieve their dreams.  Think of Colonel Sanders who started his Kentucky Fried Chicken business in his early 60s and Ray Kroc who started McDonalds in his 50s.  The first woman to swim the Atlantic was also in her 50s.

Often for women it has been when the children all leave home, or for the men, when they can retire at 65, that the fork of the road presents itself.  Do we hide behind fears, beliefs and uncertainties or do we step forward into the unknown but exciting future.  If we believe that old age is not a number but a state of mind, the second option can hold more appeal than a life of sameness stretching out into infinity. My tag line is, “Youth and Vitality at Any Age.”

As a new year rolls over, we often make goals or resolutions that we are going to get clear on where we are going to put our energy.  So if your goals for 2014 are not clear yet, I suggest you use some of the holiday downtime to think about what you would like to achieve.  By writing them down, the universe gets a stronger sense of how it can help you reach your dream.

Enjoy setting and reaching your goals for 2014!   Robyn

Calmness at the Eye of the Storm

“The cyclone derives its power from a calm centre.  So does a person.”  Norman Vincent Peale

It’s that silly season where life can feel like a stormy sea or like a hurricane.  As we fit in one end-of-year function after another, we’re getting very close to the end of mailing dates, the cake hasn’t been made yet, oh & what can I buy for Uncle Jim?  We promise ourselves it’s not going to be like this next year, but here we are again rushing around in ever diminishing circles.  As our stress levels increase we are operating from a higher & higher level of nervous tension that we can control if we are willing to accept that there might be another way.

For some, & this used to include me, meditation is a dirty word.  My understanding, lead me to believe that it had to be a certain way, that I had to get an empty mind.  Because I come from a background of clinical reasoning, it wasn’t until someone explained to me the physiological benefits to being still & quiet (the word meditation left out of the equation), that I was prepared to take the concepts on board.  We were shown different ways to do this because we don’t all feel comfortable doing things the same way.  When I recognised how much better I felt when I routinely stopped my busyness, I understood why people over the centuries have got hooked on meditating.  Nuns & monks used to take themselves off for days at a time to meditate, but most of us can’t afford this luxury.  It is the dilemma of our modern world to bring some calm to the stormy sea.  Research has shown that we don’t need the hours of meditating each day to lower the stress response in our bodies.  10 min could be enough if done daily.

Enjoy finding your calmness at the eye of the storm!   Robyn


Be Detached from the Outcome

“I’m a great believer in luck and I find the harder I work, the more I have of it.”  Thomas Jefferson

One of the definitions in the Oxford Dictionary states that ‘luck is a series of happy chances.’  Now that we have a ton of work that has been done by the quantum physicists, we understand that we can create our own luck.  A lot of people used to talk of my husband as lucky – even simple things like finding a car park right where he wanted it.  Having watched how hard he worked I agreed with the author of this quote, that in fact he created most of his luck.  However, he also used the Law of Attraction.  We didn’t consciously know about that then, but he did set an intention (not necessarily on paper as they would suggest),  had the belief in himself to go after that intention, worked hard at anything that would take him in the right direction and voilà he was’ lucky’ enough for something good to happen.

“But I work really hard,” I hear you say.  Do you believe that your hard work is going to achieve what you want?  Do you believe that you have what it takes to reach your goal?  If so, are you ready to accept that what you ‘intend’ is not necessarily going to arrive in your time frame or exactly as you had envisaged?  This can be the missing part of the puzzle, and a harder piece to accept.  Our part is to put out the intention, work towards achieving that goal and being open to opportunities that come along.  We then have to let go of the attachment of the result looking a certain way.  This is the piece I’m having to work on, on a daily basis.  It’s called ‘being detached from the outcome.’  Wow! 

Enjoy working hard and being detached from the outcome!   Robyn