Monthly Archives: September 2014

Are you Growing or Dying?

“Life without progress becomes unendurable, and the person who ceases from growth must either become an imbecile or insane.  The greater and more harmonious and well -rounded your growth is, the happier you will be.”  Wallace D Wattles

Don’t you just love the language from the early 20th century!  There is no such thing as standing still, you are either moving backwards or forwards.  If you think you are standing still, in comparison to everyone around you, you will be going backwards.  Everything in life is either growing or dying.  It’s in our spiritual nature to want to expand and express ourselves in a greater way.  When you are not progressing in life, you are cutting off and denying your spirit the joy of expansion and expressing.

So if you don’t want to ‘become an imbecile or insane,’ it is important to consciously and deliberately develop yourself emotionally, intellectually and spiritually on a regular basis.  In every moment there is an opportunity to express yourself authentically and purposefully.  Are you aware of how your life looks and feels when you are living on purpose?  Choose to notice when you are in the flow of life and therefore living authentically, and notice how much happier you feel.

Enjoy having well-rounded growth!

What Beliefs are Holding You Back?

“You can have anything you want if you are willing to give up the belief that you can’t have it.”  Robert Anthony

Dr Robert Anthony is a man who stands up for what he believes.  He was asked to be a speaker in “The Secret.”  He didn’t think it was going to get the full message out so he didn’t want to be involved.  For a lot of the other speakers it put them on the map.  He authentically stood up for his beliefs.  Our beliefs are very strong drivers of our lives.  If we have any doubts about what we want, because we don’t believe we deserve it, that we’re not good enough in some way, then we sabotage our goals and intentions.  The list of core limiting beliefs is as long as your subconscious has made it over the years, with the meaning you have attached to experiences you have had.  Beliefs are something we hold to be true!

One of the key ingredients to getting what we want in life, is believing that we can have it.  These beliefs are buried deep within our psyche and of course we have empowering ones as well as the limiting ones.  We may need to dig deep to find out what the ones are, that are holding us back.  Often it’s useful to know where they have come from so that we can see them for what they are – lies. Just saying an affirmation from our conscious mind may not be enough to make the necessary changes because the subconscious doesn’t believe them.  You may need to look at using one of the many techniques out there to allow your subconscious to let go of the beliefs that say you can’t have what you want.  Only then can you believe that you can have anything you want!

Enjoy changing your perspective!

Enjoy the Constructive Criticism

“To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing.”   Elbert Hubbard

Were you brought up allowed to make mistakes and give things a go?  Often we get wrapped up in cotton wool because our parents just want to keep us safe, they want to protect us from some of the hard knocks they have had to endure over the years.  This can have the effect of causing us to feel the fear of stepping out and taking calculated risks.  The message we may have downloaded over the years, is one of caution, to prevent the criticism that will inevitably arise when we step into something new, a message that may encourage people pleasing.

You know the saying you can never please everyone all of the time, so why live on the side line of life, just in case someone doesn’t agree with what you are trying to do.  Anyone who has made a significant contribution to this world has probably had to face criticism at some stage.  If we choose to sit back & watch life pass us by we could very well feel a sense of frustration and dissatisfaction that we are not achieving what we know we’re capable of.  Recognise that it’s probably the child in you who doesn’t want to be judged, by parents, even if they are no longer around to voice their disapproval.  Forgive them for their limiting guidance & cut the apron strings so you can move on, criticism or not!  A new perspective could be that constructive criticism is welcome.

Enjoy listening to the constructive criticism!

Do You Have Regrets?

“Life is like photography.  You develop from the negatives.”  Anon

When I saw this quote I was reminded of a TED talk I saw recently about regrets.  We often have regrets about the negative things that happen in our lives.  Our reactions can be that we want it to go away, we want to know why did we do that, or want to inflict punishment to ourselves or all three.  They can be like a record that won’t stop repeating that reaction in our head over & over.  It’s natural to feel pain or hurt when things go wrong to the people we love.  And we would love to turn back the clock to do something differently.

The important thing is to remember that we are all human, we all do things we regret, so cutting ourselves some slack around whatever has happened is important. We need to love that flawed, imperfect part that has created this situation and to forgive ourselves.  Regrets and the negative things that can happen in life teach us lessons.  As the quote says we develop from the negatives!

Enjoy developing from the negatives!

Connect to the Magic of Life

“I seldom end up where I wanted to go, but almost always end up where I need to be.”  Douglas Adams.

In the personal development/spiritual world, they talk of this as non-attachment.  This means having a goal with expected timeframes, putting it out into the universe in the way of thought or spoken wave forms & then trusting that what you need will turn up in exactly the moment you need it.  Do you remember the movie, “Under the Tuscan Sun.”  The heroine said she wanted children in the house and a big family to be sitting around the dinner table.  She of course was thinking the traditional family and her own children.

The family turned out to be a group of migrant workers working on her house who had nowhere to live.  One of these workers was just a young lad who fell in love with a local girl so our heroine became like a mum and advocate for this young couple.  Then a pregnant friend arrived from the States to be supported when she had her baby.  The real estate agent who had sold her the house had become a friend, and he was the one who pointed out to her that her dream had in fact worked out.  She was very happy with the outcome.  Letting go of feeling like we have to be in control of every little detail, can be what helps the magic to come true.

Enjoy being part of the magic!   Robyn