Monthly Archives: January 2015

What Does Your Life Mean to You?

“The meaning of life is to give life meaning.”  Viktor Frankl

You may have read Frankl’s wonderful little book, “Man’s Search for Meaning.”  If not it is a great read.  He survived Auschwitz when his parents, brother and wife perished.  How he learned to handle the horrors lead him to be an Internationally renowned psychiatrist when he was released.  He had to find some sort of meaning in his life to keep going when others succumbed.  One meaning was the love he remembered for his wife.  He saw the truth: “that love is the ultimate and highest goal to which man can aspire.” The ‘inner life’ kept him going in the face of his bleak external conditions.

He also talks of how “humour was another of the soul’s weapons to help them rise above their situation.”  Because he was a doctor he had opportunities to use those skills rather than just the digging or other mindless tasks.  Even though it sometimes put his life at more risk, the comforting and helping sick patients gave him the meaning to go on.  Another time when he had an opportunity to escape he had what he called an unpleasant feeling but when he made the decision to stay with his patients that feeling left him.

We don’t need to go through the horrors that he faced to find our own meaning and purpose to life.  We can turn the phrase around as he has done to give the life we have, meaning.  Listen to our body intelligence, to tune in to what feels good, and therefore has some ‘meaning factor’ to it.

Enjoy feeling the meaning!

How Many Hugs Today

“Just remember you can’t put your arms around a memory, so hug someone you love today.”   Anon

I present material about Stress to any organisation or business that wants to listen.  In that I talk about research of the benefits of hugging.  At the same time that this quote arrived in my inbox I got another email from an ‘alternative’ doctor in the states called Norm Shealy.  He was quoting from Virginia Satir, creator of Family Therapy, “We need 4 hugs a day for survival.  We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance.  We need 12 hugs a day for growth.”

He also quoted from a recent university study where they showed that, “hugs improved immunity and protection from individuals purposefully exposed to the cold virus.  Hugs are one of the many ways to enhance mood, wellbeing and oxytocin, the most critical mood hormone for good self-esteem and ultimately health and longevity.  Oxytocin-competent conscientious individuals live longer, are healthier and have a higher lifetime income.”

Some people are a lot more ‘huggy’ than others naturally.  From what I have quoted here, you can see it is definitely a practice that is worthy of incorporating into your daily life.  I’m not suggesting you go down the main street and hug everyone, as some have been known to do.  But this information could give you the fuel to consciously decide to step up the number of hugs you engage in each day.

Enjoy hugging!

What State is Your Thread of Connection?

“An invisible thread connects those who are destined to meet, regardless of time, place and circumstance.  The thread may stretch or tangle, but it will never break.”  Anon

I have also seen this quote as a ‘red invisible thread’ and has been quoted as a Chinese Proverb

No doubt you have heard people saying that we are all one.  We are all energetic beings and like electricity we are all connected, like cells of one body.  We can learn from each and every person who comes into our lives, especially if we are prepared to take note and pick up on the lesson.  Some of those who come into our lives are only there for a short time, others stay for the long haul.

I’m sure you’ve all had moments in your lives when someone or something has turned up in your life just at the right time.  A few years ago I heard of a couple who met & married.  When they were looking at old photos, they found photos she had taken on two separate situations where her husband was in the background.  At that point in time they hadn’t met.  She had the photos as proof, but I’m sure we all have stories that are similar.  Times when perhaps a person came into our lives at school and we didn’t see them again for years only to pick up a great friendship again later.  The examples go on.  In the same light there are others where we know the thread isn’t as strong, and we travel along different paths that never cross again.  Every connection we have had has helped to make us the person we are today, so it is important to be grateful for even the threads that stretch or tangle.

Enjoy the connections of your life!

How passionate Are You?

“A great leader’s courage to fulfil his vision comes from passion, not position.”  Anon

Happy New Year Everyone.  What is your vision for 2015?  Not New Year’s Resolutions, but vision!  Sure you may need to make some resolutions or decisions about your goals or plans so that the vision is either realised or well on the way by the end of the year.  I have had a string of New Year themed emails in the last day or so and one that I thought had more substance than most of them was about using the word ‘NO.’

A few years ago I worked through a programme which was about the natural laws that we often have not been faced with throughout our schooling.  One of these was the Law of Sacrifice.  Usually when we hear the word sacrifice, we think of having to give up something.  Instead however, we could be thinking that by giving up one thing we are gaining something else.  If we say No to something, it means we could be saying Yes to something else that we feel more passionate about.  The author of the article had 15 different concepts he was offering us to look at & why we might say No to all sorts of things after considering the outcome.  To do that we need to know what our vision is, how we plan to get there & how passionately we want to succeed!

Enjoy saying No to the things that will not help you move towards your vision!