Monthly Archives: April 2015

Do You Make Mistakes?

“A mistake is simply another way of doing things.”

Edison wrote, “I will discover and deliver to the world, a system of illumination to completely replace our current dependence on oil lamp lighting.”  He had no idea how to do it. But he had a clear vision and he wrote it down.  I’m sure you’ve heard his famous quote when asked how he handled failing to create the light bulb so many times, “I have not failed.  I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”  He also said, “Our greatest weakness lies in giving up.  The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.”

A lot of us would not be walking if we thought we had made a mistake when we fell as we tried to walk.  Most of us don’t give up because we thought we weren’t meant to get about on our feet instead of our knees.  So why do we give up at the first ‘mistake’ or ‘failure’ when we are adults?   Is it a belief that things have to be done a certain way, or that we’re going to look an idiot if we ‘fail’ yet again?  Einstein said that, “imagination is greater than knowledge.” So what if we were to look at things from a different perspective and look at mistakes as an imaginative process to get to our goal!

Enjoy making mistakes

Do You Trust Your Relationships?

“Communication is critical to developing mutually beneficial and mutually enjoyable relationships.  Relationships require trust, and one of the best ways to develop trust is to focus on helping the other person feel heard and understood.”  Jack Canfield

One of the core limiting beliefs that people have, is they are not heard or understood.  Often this will come from our parents or teachers who have a belief themselves, that children shouldn’t have as much to say as the adults, and may shut them up regularly.  The child then grows up believing they don’t have anything to offer or that no one wants to listen to them.  This then gets reflected back to them through the Law of Attraction.  Their friends, their significant other, and even their children don’t appear to be taking much notice of them.

Think back to a new relationship that has worked out from day one.  Usually there is a feeling that this new person is listening and has made it clear that they have heard you correctly and understood what you have said.  ‘Being present,’ which means listening with 100% attention, is one of the biggest gifts we can give another human being.  Knowing that someone is listening, develops the trust needed to feel in our core, that we want to continue this relationship.  This listening skill is essential to make a good connection.  So make it a goal to ask questions that encourage a conversation and actively listen to their reply.  This will help your friends, colleagues and loved ones feel validated.

Enjoy helping others feel heard and understood!

you Are Smarter Than You Think!

“You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.”  Christopher Robin from “Winnie the Pooh.”

I didn’t remember this quote even though I loved the Pooh Bear stories.  I selected it a couple of weeks ago and then last week it was brought up at the Toastmasters group I go to, as the theme for the night, was favourite cartoon characters.  I think I love the Pooh Bear stories even more now as an adult than I did as a child.  I think the humour was often lost on me as a child.  Poor old Pooh his emotional self-worth didn’t seem that wonderful & I’m sure he was a binge eater, don’t you agree?

Like all of us though, our potential is infinite.  It is our conditioned mind that might say, “Oh bear of little brain.”  For all his faults I think Pooh would have been a good coach.  He was human after all, he listened to what Christopher Robin asked and considered the questions to help Christopher Robin come up with the answers himself rather than relying on Pooh to have the answers.  We all have the answers within us, if we sit with the question longer enough.  That’s what Einstein said was the reason for his success – he sat with the problems for longer than most of us and believed that the universe would give him the answers.

Enjoy waiting for the answers that will make you smarter than you think!

What’s Your Purpose Looking Like?

“I believe each of us is born with a life purpose. Identifying, acknowledging, and honouring this purpose is perhaps the most important action successful people take.”  Jack Canfield

As one of the authors of the “Chicken for the Soul,” books, Jack Canfield could certainly consider himself successful and therefore be qualified to comment about the pre-requisites for getting there.  I’m sure those of us who have heard him speak or read his books, would think that he is living his life on purpose.  Some of us are lucky enough to know very early on in life what we want to do with the hours we are on this earth.  With the single minded approach that our purpose can give us, it looks from the outside, that these people find it easier to reach the success they’re wanting.

However often these people don’t even think about the success they may achieve, because the passion of living the life they really desire is what it is all about.  Unfortunately there are a lot of people in this world who have no idea of what their purpose is in life because they have been conditioned from a very early age to train for something that parents or teachers thought was the best ‘way to go.’  They have chosen subjects at school that really don’t resonate but it appears that those subjects are going to create the best outcomes in a monetary sense.  Meanwhile they could be shrivelling up inside because they are not listening to their hearts , their inner drive or passion.  If this is you, it is never too late to live your life knowing you are fulfilling your purpose!

Enjoy living your life with purpose!