Monthly Archives: October 2015

Are You Living Your Purpose?

“Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in. Forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.”   Ralph Waldo Emerson

With today being a public holiday in New Zealand and the sun pouring into my house, these are definitely words to take hold of and run with. This brand new baby day is full of promise to use as I will, as they all are.  Somewhere along the line I have developed a belief that time is so important we shouldn’t waste it. I have been preparing for a weekend’s workshop that is based on the traditional Chinese concepts and reading signs from our faces. The cleft of the chin is associated with the age of 60. If you have a horizontal line here before that age, it means that the energy you are currently expending is aging you prematurely.

To preserve inherited energy that you were born with and to improve your lifestyle it is important to include some rest doing as little as possible on a regular basis. This means laying around, sleeping, reading, meditating. These activities are necessary for optimal health, but in the west they can be viewed as laziness and a waste of time. Rest and relaxation on a regular basis is considered to prepare the body for future effort. This line on the chin can also mean we are not living our life on purpose. The Chinese believe that if we are doing things that we love they take less effort. The goal is to reduce unnecessary effort, rest frequently, and increase pleasure in the activities that are undertaken for the rest of your life.

Enjoy letting the past go and starting this new day with purpose!

Are You Going to Choose Self-Discipline?

“With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose.”   Wayne Dyer

It is interesting to notice how different people around us respond to what life throws at them. There are some who would fit the mould of the ‘self-made man.’ They use their stumbling blocks as stepping stones to keep moving towards their goals. Our backgrounds aren’t always indicative of the way we are going to turn out. Some children get a rough start at life but somehow they turn their adversity into a strength or success. People attribute success in life to many things, but one of the major attributes is self-discipline. A New Zealand study found childhood self-control predicted physical health, personal finances and criminal behaviour.

According to Paul Scheele of Learning Strategies Corporation, “being self-disciplined does not have to be difficult or taxing. True self-discipline flows naturally from the strength of your clear purpose and living in alignment with your values.” If you have a setback are you going to allow that obstacle affect you for the rest of your life and feel sorry for yourself, or are you going to focus on what it is you want out of life and grow from the experience? There may a huge upside to what has happened, maybe you just can’t see it yet. Which way are you going to choose?

Enjoy making the decision!

According to Billy Joel, “Honesty is Such a Lonely Word.”

“Honesty doesn’t have to be brutal, but it has to be honest.”  Simon Sinek

I remember when I was doing my coaching training. We had to do an exercise where we told each of the others in the class something that we didn’t like about them. Now sometimes we think we would give our eye teeth, as the saying goes, to tell someone what we thought of them. However in an exercise like this it can be quite difficult, much easy to say something pleasant or positive. One of the young guys in my group said he didn’t like how I was always honest. Now that came as a bit of a shock to me as I had always prided myself on my honesty.

In my manual of that course there was a section on communication styles. Lo & behold there was a name for the type of honesty I was portraying, Truth Mongering! As I read the description I realised this was definitely one of my styles. Always feeling I had to tell the truth and call a spade a spade. As I said earlier I prided myself on my honesty. And yes I can still feel the need to let nothing go unchallenged, I’m direct, forthright and can be argumentative to make sure the facts are clear. So this quote is definitely for me this week, to remind me how being brutally honest can upset people. Do you think you have any of the traits I have mentioned? Take a moment and think about how you communicate and whether there is a need to make a tweak so that your message is understood and received. It Is important to master your ability to communicate or connect with other human beings.

Enjoy communicating with honesty but without brutality!

Are You Tenacious?

“Be like a postage stamp – stick to one thing until you get there.” John Billings

I have been listening to an audio where the speaker is talking about tenacity. He talks about how young children have great tenacity when they want something even though they don’t have the experience to know how they can get it. They don’t allow the challenges to stop them. They keep on until they get what they want. Those of us who are parents will know what he means. They wear you down until you give in, like water can wear down the obstacles in its path over time. Another word could be resolve, to do whatever it takes to reach your goal or dream.

Napoleon Hill in his book, “Think and Grow Rich,” talks about persistence & says, “The basis of persistence is the POWER OF WILL. Will power and desire, when properly combined, make an irresistible pair.” Some of us give up at the first sign of opposition and may say that it is what the universe has decreed. Others of us will carry on despite the challenges until we get what we want. Hill says, “persistence is to a person’s character what carbon is to steel.” What are you currently doing that is causing you to waver in your tenacity to hang on until you get there?

Enjoy using your Will Power!