Monthly Archives: February 2016

Love the Fear!

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”   Anais Nin

Are any of you sitting on the edge of the cliff knowing you should jump but listening to the fears? OK I know it would be crazy to literally jump so those fears are real, but what about all the others that create a constant babble of noise in your head, drowning out the passion and dreams you have to do something else with your life. I get it, it can get quite noisy in there at times. You understand though what is happening physiologically don’t you.

That fear is driving us to operate from our hind brain like all other animals. As humans we have a cortex in that part of the brain directly above our eyes that sets us apart. It is the conscious, intellectual, thinking part of the brain. We make it so difficult for it to operate properly, when we allow those voices in the head to drag us back and down. Have you thought of asking yourself, “Is this fear real? How do I feel when I believe that fear? Who would I be if I didn’t believe it? I for one would be helping more of you to feel more fulfilled as you allowed the petals to open and go for your dreams and desires.

Enjoy the pain of taking a risk into your dreams!

The Evolutionary Force is Alive in You!

“Seeking perfection is an aspect of the evolutionary force that lives through everyone. If the evolutionary impulse is ALIVE in you, so is dissatisfaction.”  David Deida

For many years I got the message that wanting to grow and evolve meant that I must be unhappy about my life. I felt judged because I wanted to grow. And yet I felt that I was very happy and grateful, I might add, for the life I had. It’s just that there is always a part of me that is pushing me forward. I can choose to listen to that or I can become complacent and settle for the life I’m living. It could mean that I feel stuck, as so many of my clients do, when they turn up for coaching. It could mean a sense of frustration or dissatisfaction because I’m not sharing my gifts and talents with others.

Often we hear that we should get rid of the clutter in our lives. Recently I heard a guy speaking about this and he talked of clearing out the things that we are ‘settling’ about. I have been noticing lots of little things that need to be cleaned up, cleared out. Things I have been just walking past and ignoring for too long. This is one way I have been satisfying my need to grow. And I am also constantly stretching to grow internally as well as externally to satisfy that little voice pushing me forwards. I am learning to embrace my dissatisfaction. We all have special gifts to offer to the world, and when we stop evolving into the person who wants to share these in the best way we know how, everyone else misses out as well as ourselves.

Enjoy reaching, stretching, and growing!

We Don’t Have to be Broken to Change!

“Broken crayons still colour.”

In the world of life coaching and personal development it is easy to put out a message that people need to change because they are broken in some way; that they need to be fixed. If we believe that about ourselves, we often use that label as a crutch or an excuse to stay stuck where we are even though we say we want to move out of that place. It can be too easy to say, “I can’t do it because….. It can be a way of procrastinating, a way of justifying why we are keeping the brakes on our life’s dreams.

The truth is we all have the tools we need every day to do the things we dream of doing not because we are broken. Look around in your own life and see where you are limiting yourself, preventing that perfect you from moving forward. We all have hurdles or challenges in life. Use those broken crayons to paint the picture of your dreams. Recognise the character building challenges needed to grow into that dream. Not because you are broken, but because every living thing grows until it dies. Not following our purpose and passion can cause us to die inside prematurely.  Colour your life with the best those crayons have left to offer.

Enjoy painting your life the colours of the rainbow!

Let’s Get to the Heart of the Matter!

“I believe there’s an inner power that makes winners or losers and the winners are the ones who really listen to the truth of their hearts.”   Sylvester Stallone

We have had conversations over the years that go something like this, “He knew in his heart of hearts,” and “her heart just wasn’t in it.” We know the power of the heart. This has now been proven by the work of ‘The Institute of Heartmath’ and others. The energy that is put out by the heart is much more than the brain and messages going from the Heart to the brain outnumber the messages going in the opposite direction.  So often we listen to the mind with its conditioned beliefs that tell us the lies of “I’m not good enough, I can’t do this, no one listens to me, the list goes on.”

When you can honestly listen to your heart and follow its desires, is when you live a life full of the truth and purpose. So often though, we allow the doubts and fears to creep in and undermine our intentions. These doubts and fears are based on the past when we’ve made a mistake or fallen down. As a child learning to walk we keep getting up when we fall. So remind yourself, that if what your heart is telling you you really want to do, then like walking we need to get up one more time. Lying on the ground blaming, judging, feeling sorry for yourself is not going to get the job done. It is going to allow those old stories win. I spent some time over the long weekend re assembling my vision board – taking off the things I have achieved and re-evaluating some others. Having it in front of me and having some quiet or meditation time, helps to keep me on track when I ‘lose the plot.’

Enjoy listening to the truth of your heart!

OMG This Feels Scary!

“When you dance, your purpose is not to get to a certain place on the floor. It’s to enjoy each step along the way.”  Wayne Dyer.

This is a wonderful analogy for me because I love dancing or in fact just moving to music, and as my toastmaster friends know singing along can be part of it. I can so easily relate to what Wayne is saying when he says to enjoy each step with dance. But life can seem so different when things happen that don’t seem like fun at all and the only way to move through is to look past the challenges to what we are wanting on the other side. Most of us have been programmed to believe that it doesn’t feel good to feel certain things or to behave in a certain way.

But what if it was ok to just feel the emotion going through you at the time? After all emotion is just energy in motion and like everything else in life we can choose in any moment to sit with that and see if we can get the lesson this time around. Or we can resist that, get in a stew, wind everything up and create a drama. The reason we do that is because that reaction is learned over the years and is stored in our memory banks. When we’re feeling a little off balance, or don’t feel centred, it’s very easy to call up the memory of past emotion. The brain reacts as if that memory and feeling is real. When we become aware of what we are doing it is easier to believe that now is the time to break that pattern and enjoy the downs as well as the ups of this rollercoaster called life.

Enjoy each experience of life!