Monthly Archives: August 2016

Thoughts, Feelings, Actions, Produce Your Attitude and Results.

“The universe doesn’t give you what you ask for with your thoughts; it gives you what you demand with your actions.”  Dr Steve Maraboli

Our thoughts are definitely where everything starts. What we think then creates a vibration. If the thought is positive or alive with possibility, then the vibration is high. If the thought is full of fear the negative what ifs then our vibration is low. We can all see how the energy is in people. It is reflected in their posture, their language and tone of voice. We all have a part of the brain called the ‘Reticular Activating System,’ that is responsible for scanning our environment to find a match for what we are thinking and feeling. The Law of Attraction is based on this fact. So often, people complain that the Law of Attraction doesn’t work. They read the affirmations and get engaged with the feeling of attracting/manifesting what they want, but unfortunately that may be for only a short time of the day. For the rest of the time they are indulging in doubts and fears, so this is what they attract more of.

The vibration or feeling is what dictates what we do with our opportunities. These actions are going to be reflecting the inner beliefs that drive our thoughts and feelings. The results we get are ultimately are at the end of the chain of these other 3 components. Paying attention to what we think and therefore feel, is paramount, if we want those actions to be positive, energetic and vibrant. Try jotting down each day what you have thought in response to something that has happened or in fact hasn’t happened. This may give you an idea of whether what you are asking for is being matched in energy and action throughout the day. We can’t change anything until we know what we are doing now!

Enjoy learning about your predominant thoughts, beliefs and feelings!

Would you Rather be Dead?

“The good thing about pain is that it means you are still alive.”  Unknown

As a physiotherapist I am working with people with pain all the time. I’m sure they wouldn’t agree with this quote. On the surface they are suffering from the more physical pain. They would probably believe that pain is something to be endure, that they wish it would all go away, that it’s not fair.  If we don’t get on top of it quickly they start to get depressed and suffer from the more mental and emotional type of pain. This response is probably tapping into their past relationship with pain. They may become one of the victims of life.

Recently I had a lady come to see me in her 80s. She has pain that dominates everything she does in life, but she wasn’t going to let that drag her down or spoil her relationships, even with me. She gave me the facts, she acknowledged me as a person, she went away leaving me feeling good. I learnt very early in my career that I can’t ‘cure’ everyone. It was a hard lesson, as I came into the profession believing that I could. Sometimes I can still feel bad that I’m not God. Despite all her pain this woman was not going to put the whole responsibility for her healing on to me & for that I’m grateful. At the end of the day if we have pain of any sort we may need to change our perspective to get a different sort of healing than the one I provide physically.

Enjoy choosing how you want to look at your life!

Who Are You?

“Care about what other people think of you and you will always be their prisoner.”

I’m sure most of us have done this at some stage in our lives and although I might not be intending to, there may be times when I still do if I was being honest. With some of our beliefs being hidden in our subconscious mind, we may not be aware that we are behaving in this way. We may think we are helping someone because we like helping people. In fact we are helping because we have learnt over the years that people appreciate your help and it feels good when they praise us. We may have made a decision at a very young age that we need to behave in a certain way for mum & dad to love us. It’s probably not true but we kept trying to impress not only them but our teachers and other significant adults in our lives as we were growing up. That becomes a habit & we believe that everyone behaves in the same way.

But they don’t! They may have made other decisions that are not true either, but they have different things to learn as they journey through this thing called life. So recognising what the decisions are that you made and the beliefs that you have about yourself and your life, is crucial to you making changes to how you operate. Now don’t get me wrong, we don’t have to make changes because we are broken or that there is something wrong with us. If we have a realisation that we are not being or doing who we know deep down inside we are, then we can feel that something isn’t quite right. If we’re living someone else’s dream and trying to be something we’re not just to please them, then we’re not being the best version of us. This can feel empty and not fulfilling us.

Enjoy being the best version of yourself & feel fulfilled doing that!!

How Do You Fertilise Your Mind Garden?

“Your mind is not a cage. It is a garden…..and it requires cultivating.”

Does anyone remember the song put out about 18 months ago by Sara Bareilles called ‘Brave?’ She sings that we can be a victim or we can speak up; that we can allow someone’s harsh words stay inside or we can choose to speak up; that everyone has felt the fear but maybe there is a way out of the cage where we live, maybe we can let the light in. A good garden needs sunlight to grow. Most of us will have seen a weed that is determined to push up through the crack in the concrete, but it won’t turn from white to green until it sees the light.

Our minds are no different. We can muddle along from one day to the next living by default, not by design. When we do this we are often living someone else’s design or desire. The mind just plods along, having been conditioned in our earlier years, to do things the way our ancestors have always done them. You may not realise it is a cage-like existence, until something happens that gives you a new perspective on life. When you realise you are not living your life the way you want to, you will see that you need a good light to shine on the cage that your subconscious mind may have constructed over the years. Even these small ‘Rejuvenating Thoughts’ may shine some light on the way you look at things. With some good water, fertiliser and light the garden of your mind will start to respond to life in a different way.

Enjoy stepping out beyond the walls of your cage and fertilise your mind garden!

What Behaviours in Others Stress You the Most?

“Be with someone who brings out the best in you, not the stress in you.”

Have you got the habit of tuning into your body’s wisdom? If so, you will be able to get the message somewhere in your body that tells you whether it feels relaxed and comfortable around this person but feels ‘tight’ or ‘disempowered’ around that person. Remember, that who stresses you, may not stress others you know. Often the people who stress us are the ones who trigger something in us because their behaviour or way of being, is also something in us that we don’t think is acceptable. We may have been brought up to believe that certain behaviours are not acceptable in society. As an adult we may know in our conscious minds that this belief is not necessarily the truth but our subconscious is the one running the show, and it doesn’t want you to exhibit a behaviour that may get you into trouble.

Although it may feel better to constantly be around people who bring out the best in us, we can get some real learning about ourselves from those who stress us. Next time someone creates a reaction in us that doesn’t feel good, have a look at what it is about their behaviour that is setting off the alarm bells. What can you learn from it? We all have all emotions in us, it is just that our upbringing may have taught us we shouldn’t be angry or show strong emotion in public, or any number of things. You will probably know what it is for you. There is a price to pay for constant monitoring and control. It is very tiring holding onto those emotions from appearing in public. Find some way of releasing those emotions in a safe way and allow yourself to feel the full spectrum of emotions. Accept yourself for all behaviours. Look in the mirror and say I am weak or needy or whatever ‘pushes your buttons.’ Once you can accept that yes, we all have all these tendencies, watch those reactions dissipate and you wonder why you found them so stressful in the past.

Enjoy learning from those who stress you!