“You are better off without certain people in your life. Let them go so you can grow.”
When searching on Google for an image to portray the sentiments of this quote, I came across a couple of others in the same vein. Paul Coehlo is quoted as saying, “If you’re brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello.” There is an energetic understanding that when something is gone it creates a vacuum and apparently nature abhors a vacuum so it will find something else to fill up that space. If our energy is not drained or dragged down by something or someone who doesn’t feel good in our life, we have the energy to move towards people and things that do feel good. But yes I know, that coming to that decision may not be as simple as it sounds.
I found another quote on the images page attributed to Dr Suess, “Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.” Having the attitude to find the benefit or the gift in every experience, causes our whole chemistry to change. Our brain starts firing differently, the feel good chemicals are released instead of the stress hormones. We start to operate from a completely different mindset and interact with others differently. From that state we look out into the world searching for more of the positive experiences to match with how we feel.
Enjoy letting them go!
“Habits are like financial capital – forming one today is an investment that will automatically give out returns for years to come.” Shawn Achor
As with anything in life we can have both positive and negative habits. Habits can have started as young as toddler age. Some may have been taught to us by those around us. Others have been soaked up by ‘osmosis.’ Energetically from birth we can pick up how our parents are feeling, even if they try not to let the children know things are not good or show their true feelings. Children can pick up on that energy. We all then as youngsters, develop habits of behaviour to protect ourselves, to be little perfectionists so that we don’t get judged and criticised, to learn ways that will keep us safe not only physically but also emotionally.
This is not a conscious behaviour. It is all part of the subconscious that makes up approximately 95% of who we are and how we behave, especially when under stress. If we are not aware of the habits we have, we can’t change them to be less reactive. Even if we can notice after we have reacted, that is a start. We can then make plans, we can learn new ways to reframe the way we look at our experiences. Like saving money when we are young, the sooner we start acknowledging that we want our habits to change, the sooner we can have different experiences for the rest of our lives.
Enjoy exchanging negative habits for habits that are empowering.
“Hanging on to resentment is letting someone you despise live rent-free in your head.” Esther Lederer/Ann Landers
So how do you treat yourself? The Institute of Heart Math has research that shows that without intervention, 5 minute of anger resulted in disharmony in the hearts rhythms which was still there 6 hours later. Any of the ‘negative’ emotions have the ability to disrupt the coherence of the heart rhythm. If we allow that to happen we have only ourselves to blame, not the person out there who has done something that we have allowed to upset us. We are the only ones who then pay for that indulgence for another 6 hours if we don’t intervene.
Yes I know, the years of conditioning from parents, teachers, society and so on have created certain beliefs in us that we continue to hold on to years later. If we don’t want to react in the same old way, hanging on to resentments and heart disharmony, then we have to take some steps, make some changes. If we don’t, we just repeat the same old patterns of behaviour. We hold on to our beliefs and patterns in every cell of our body, not just allowing them to ‘live rent-free in our head.’ So when will NOW be a good time to say, “No,” to those outdated resentments? When are you going to de-clutter?
Enjoy cleaning out the cobwebs of resentment!
“Being hopeful is more important than being realistic. For reality is coloured by our perceptions, opinions, and the ever fragile human emotions. But hope has the power to elevate us. Hope turns our eyes away from the visible and allows us to see the miracle that we need, while it is still far off.” Scott Johnson
I remember when I first started my journey of personal development and life coaching. I wasn’t in a good place. I remember putting off doing something that had the potential to bring me better results than I had been getting. Why would I put off doing something that could be a winner? I had had a lot of disappointment at that point and I couldn’t face another disappointment. I would rather live in the hopes that things could be better. A while later I was on a call with a therapist who specialises in EFT or Meridian Tapping. She was saying she had told a friend how tapping could help her problem but when she enquired a couple of weeks later, the friend said she hadn’t started. The therapist couldn’t understand why, when it had the potential to change her life. I almost cried as I related and completely understood how much better it feels to hope, than to have another option disappoint.
Research shows that when we feel good we release completely different hormones than we do when we feel anxious, stressed or depressed. Praise, gratitude and hope are feelings that have the power to lift us and release the feel good hormones. Faith that what we hope for will come about, is the part of the Law of Attraction that can be hard to maintain, when our dreams don’t materialise in the time frame we expect. The uplifting energy of hope can keep us taking action, even baby steps, when there are parts of us that would rather give up. Hope alone is not enough.
Enjoy taking action with hope!