Monthly Archives: February 2018

Which Kind of Person are You?

“There are two kinds of people in this world: those who want to get things done and those who don’t want to make mistakes.”  John C Maxwell

Which kind do you think you are? I sat and contemplated this when I first read this quote. I’m sure when I was younger I didn’t want to make mistakes and there could still be an element of that in there but on the whole I am taking more risks and putting myself out there. However there are times when I slip back into the old ways, the old habits. This is especially true when I’m doing something new and I have expectations of myself to be an expert earlier in the process than I’m capable of. If I wasn’t being so quick to judge myself I would see that I would make better progress if I allowed the process to take place instead of allowing the stress to cause a resistance.

I have just been watching some of the winter Olympics. I have no way of knowing who is more experienced than another, but when they’re facing a steep slope of jumps and turns ahead it can be obvious who is going for it even if it means bombing out and being put out of a competition they have trained so hard to be in. There are others who look as though they are being careful, being safe. They may end up still on their feet at the end of the hill, but are they satisfied that they have done their best. Are you satisfied with yourself when you know you have been very careful, but you have not done your best? As with everything in life, there is a fine line to walk between being stupid with the risks and being too careful to feel the satisfaction of a job well done. What could you do differently today that proves to yourself that you are putting your all into what you are doing even if it feels risky?

Enjoy doing your best even if it means making mistakes!

Glass Half Full or Half Empty?

I’m sure you have all heard the term ‘the glass half-full or half-empty.’ I am reading a book, “The Millionaire Course,” by Marc Allen at the moment. He has chosen to label one of the chapters about this very subject. He has a quote in there that he hasn’t attributed to anyone else so I’m assuming it is his own. “Each one of us has been given a great gift: the cup of life. It is half full and half empty. We choose which half to focus on, at every moment.” Unfortunately it isn’t always a conscious choice. But if we want to pull ourselves out of the negativity that we can resort to, we need to start focusing consciously on the part of the glass that is half full. As Marc Allen says, “This is the half that contains all our unique gifts and strengths, all our dreams and creative ideas.” The more we can focus on this the more likely we are going to attract what we want into our lives.

A lot of my clients come because they are going through a period of anxiety, fear or depression. It can be hard to focus on the positive when we are feeling so low. But this is what we need to do, to focus on our strengths, to focus on what we are grateful for and focus on the things we want and the way we want to be. Remember, if we didn’t have these dark periods of our life, we wouldn’t appreciate it when we feel good. It’s like yin and yang, we need the contrast. But of course we don’t want to stay there for long periods. The key is to spend more of your time focusing on your strengths, your dreams and the things that are going well. When you do this, the natural laws create more of those things you focus on.

Enjoy focusing on the part of the glass that is half full!

Chance or Change, What’s it Going to Be?

“Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.”   Jim Rohn

I started listening to Jim Rohn back in the 80’s when his material was on tape and I loved his clear ‘in your face’ quotes. What I’m hearing here is, “it’s all up to you, stop sitting around waiting for someone to wave a magic wand for the miracle to happen.” Yes we are at the time of the year when the New Year energy gives us a kick up the backside to verbalise what changes we want to make. As we all know though, words can be cheap. I would say though that in this instance words are actually expensive. What is it costing you to stay where you are, to stay stuck in the habits of a lifetime? We all know that unless we change the activity, the outcomes don’t change, but we’re going to have to take our heads out of the sand for long enough to see the changes we need to make, and the message is strong enough for us to want to do it. 

What is it going to take to say enough is enough, it’s time to make a stand? What is going to take to say I’m sick of waiting for something else to happen, I’m sick of getting my present results, I’m sick of repeating the same year over and over. The 3rd ‘C’ in this equation is choice. We can all exercise that choice to take a chance so that our lives can change. In the words of a key note speaker I heard about 10 years ago which stuck with me, “When would NOW be a good time?”  

Enjoy making the changes you know you want!

Belief, Faith, Confidence are Essential

“Believe in Yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers, you cannot be successful or happy.  Norman Vincent Peale

All the latest research is showing us how much control we have over own destiny. It doesn’t matter what has happened to us in our lives, it is ultimately up to us to cause the future to happen the way we want it to. This might be hard if we want to blame our parents, our teachers, the government or whoever else for our lack of progress. But as soon as we blame someone else we are giving them the power to have to change things, & they may not want to do that now or ever. Here in New Zealand our government is in power for 3 years. What could you be doing for yourself in that time while you wait for a change in the party leading the country?

I know some of us have had a rough past & it seems fair enough that someone else should get the blame for our position in life. And if you were to get successful, you wouldn’t need to keep blaming them & you may still want to hold on to that victim story, crazy as that may sound. We are complex beings, but the sooner we can let go of that feeling that we need someone else to do something before we can create some success in our life, the sooner we will be on the road to manifesting the life we want & have a confidence in what we have achieved. I’m sure you’ve heard this before & I know it all takes work, but you might need to ask yourself, “How long do I want to stay trapped where I am?” If you’re ready to say, “Now is the time to let go of the old beliefs and move forward,” then you’re probably ready to do what it takes!

Enjoy having the confidence to let go the beliefs that are keeping you stuck!