Monthly Archives: December 2020

Each New Year Starts With ONE Day!

As the year comes to a close, it is a time for reflection – a time to release old thoughts and beliefs and forgive old hurts. Whatever has happened in the past year, the New Year brings fresh beginnings. Exciting new experiences and relationships await. Let us be thankful for the blessings of the past and the promise of the future.  Peggy Toney Horton

Well, how did you all survive Xmas day with all the family stresses that pop up at times like that? We all hope it is going to be different this time around. Maybe we’ve done some work on ourselves and we were keen to see how we would stand up to the different energies that come together at these times. But it was harder than we had imagined. Every day is a new day, a time to look forward and not back. To recognise that we did the best we could under the circumstances on the day and don’t judge where we feel we may have not done as well as we thought we should. That doesn’t solve anything. It closes down our hearts when we are criticised or judged including from ourselves. We need our hearts to be beating evenly or in what is called coherence.  This is the best aim for our emotional stability.

The New Year is a great time to make a new resolve to honour what we are trying to do and persist with the decisions that we want to happen. Rather than hoping or having a half-hearted attempt at a plan, we need to have the resolve of an intention, a belief that this time we will get the job done, not with the judgement for the lack of forward movement in 2020, not with a memory of all the negatives, instead with a memory of the positive energy that comes with recognising the achievements no matter how small and building on them. I wish you all a bright 2021 with a lot of self-encouragement as you face exciting new experiences and improved relationships.

Enjoy your fresh beginnings!

Warm Wishes to All My Readers!

Christmas doesn’t come from a store, maybe Christmas perhaps means a little bit more…”  Dr. Seuss

After the circumstances of 2020 I think we can all agree with this sentiment. It has been a year of supporting others and trying to nurture ourselves. Stress was already a huge part of many lives, but this has escalated as people or loved ones become ill, as people lose their jobs or have their businesses verge on collapse, or we simply can’t connect with friends and family as we need to. This year, more than ever, is a time to not only over indulge with what we put in our mouths, but also a time to reflect on what we have been through over the last 9 months or so. As usual there will be a certain percentage of us who continue to go through things we would rather not have to deal with, but that is life, and continuing to reflect on who we are becoming through these challenges, is a big part of our evolution as a human being on Earth at this time.

Hopefully you are all able to share this time of connection with someone. We can focus on those who are unable to be with us because they live in another country or we can choose to focus on how much we can enjoy the time with those who are with us. Weather here in Dunedin has not been what most would call summer and rather than dream about a white Xmas we tend to want the weather to be fine so we can sit around the Barbie, but we can’t do anything about the weather either. This year most of my Xmas cards and letters may not get there before Santa comes down the chimney, but I hope the recipients can enjoy them when they do arrive, rather than judge me for being a normal human being who is running late.

I wish all of you reading this, a wonderful time of connection with another human being over this period, because as Dr Seuss says, that’s what Xmas is about, to most of us.

Is it Time to Show the Strength You Have Been Hiding?

“Strength doesn’t come from what you CAN do. It comes from OVERCOMING the things you once thought YOU COULDN’T”   Karen Winter

I spent a lot of my life sailing along coping with what I considered to be the normal things of life. I guess I developed a certain level of strength from achieving results in my schooling and at university. I worked at things probably more than some of my talented friends did but looking back now I’m pleased that the work I put in then afforded me the ability to be accepted into physiotherapy, a profession I have mostly loved. Loved because working with people is fundamental to who I am & also because I have recently found out that my HealthType is made up of people who like to be active a lot of the time & you are certainly active all day every day in the physio world – as long as you are doing clinical work & not sitting at a computer as a researcher.

But I really didn’t see any of that as an amazing achievement. It was all within my capabilities I guess, so it wasn’t a big deal. The biggest deal was that I only just got into the training because there was a limit to your height. One of the things I get a sense of achievement with these days is mastering something on this computer, which originally felt impossible. Each one of those steps gives me the confidence and strength to take another step. Even though maths was a strong subject at school, my brain doesn’t like following the technical rules, but then I guess I just don’t like following rules full stop. So here I am stuck at one of these ‘machines’ a lot these days, getting frustrated when some small point thwarts me, but a strong sense of achievement and confidence when I master something, especially if only Dr Google has helped me.

Enjoy finding strength and a sense of achievement by giving things a go!

How Long Can You Hold Your Breath?

“Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it’s letting go.”

The Chinese believe that the Lung energy is about taking on the new but then being able to let go when the time is right, which of course is what we do with the breath. We might think only the in-breath is important as we bring in life-giving oxygen. But like a balloon there is only so much we can take in before we have to let go of the old stale breath and make room for more of the new. The waves of the sea also come and go. Grief is the emotion associated with the Lung energy, not just the grief we feel when someone dear leaves us, but also for other losses such as a job, loss of our health when we are no longer able to do all we could in the past, our youth when everything seems to wear out, or of course the big one at the moment for a lot of people around the world is the pandemic – the grief we feel about the changes we have had to make. If our Lung energy is balanced then we are able to let go appropriately.

However we often feel it is stronger to hold on well past the ‘use by date’ of the relationship, the job or our health. This can be very tiring as we work hard to maintain the status quo. The letting go may be more of an acceptance that things have changed, as things do; a recognition that we actually do have the strength to move forward into the new life. At the moment I have been on a detox with a large group of people. Some are really struggling with what they have had to let go of – foods that are used to eating. When we have ‘managed’ the demons, we find a new strength of achievement. As with all experiences, the new lessons will probably makes us stronger in the long run & will give us the ability to keep repeating the process of ‘letting go,’ with the strength of a balanced Lung energy. This new found strength will give us the self-confidence to face the inevitable changes of life.

Enjoy accepting that life is for ever changing!