Category Archives: Rejuvenating Thoughts

It’s Time to Open Up and Connect!



“Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.” Martin Luther King

I was on a call earlier today with a group of other women, and we were discussing the throat chakra. The chakras are energy systems in the body named by the Indian people – the ones who brought, yoga, meditation and aryuvedic eating habits to the west. The throat chakra is about our communication, our conversations, about speaking our truth. For so many of us we are speaking a truth to a certain level and we are ready to step up another rung of the lady to speak about things that feel scary.

I medieval times, the dark ages, women who wanted to help heal people, who were speaking out against the new medicines and laws that were being imposed were put in the stocks, spat on and had food thrown at them. Or worse still burnt at the stake for being witches. Now the word witches is a pagan word and although it can still be used when insulting someone we probably wouldn’t try to burn someone at the stake for their beliefs today. Or so I thought.

We are at a turning point in history where those who are not happy with the mainstream narrative are being silenced if they try to put forward an opinion that is counter to what the ‘Lords’ are encouraging us to believe. They are no longer being humiliated in the stocks or being burnt at the stake, but they are having their rights to freedom of speech turned off as their facebook page or their You tube channels are removed for ever. Luckily, what was just a small band of scientists and doctors, is now swelling. New platforms who are wanting good journalism so there can be honest debate are popping up.

I am interested that, last year I was in a group where we were asked to write a statement about the world we would like to see. Mine included trust, connection, equality, fairness and power for all. Where we are all responsible for our own health physically, emotionally, mentally and energetically. Hopefully I won’t have to wait for too long to see these words materialised as more people stop being silent about the things that matter!

Enjoy speaking out in a calm rational way! And let me know how it goes.

Overcoming challenges Makes Life Meaningful!



“Challenges are what make life interesting and overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.”

– Joshua J. Marine

 

In light of what is happening throughout the world, I thought this was a quote that has been said in other ways, but the word ‘meaningful’ stood out for me. There have certainly been challenges from several fronts and because I work with people who are anxious and fearful at the best of times, what is being thrown at all of us is even more challenging for those people who are empaths or the types who were told as children that they are “too sensitive.”

 

I have just been lucky enough to squeeze in a fortnight with my grandchildren in Melbourne. Like a lot of grandparents I hadn’t seen the children, apart from Zoom, for 18 months. So although I was really looking forward to the trip, the anticipation and excitement was flattened a little by the fact that I might not actually get on the plane at the 11th hour, if our government decided to lock the borders back up. When I was a child, I can remember my mother saying, “Don’t get too excited it might never happen.” These words kept trying to challenge me, trying to stop me from enjoying that challenging week as I did extra work in preparation to be stuck over there for longer than intended.

 

I did get there, and the time with the children meant the challenge was definitely meaningful to me. The borders did close the night I arrived so I got an extra 5 days – extra meaningful time. The next challenge was filling in the form on my phone on my own to get the Covid test – a prerequisite to get back on the plane to come home. There was a time constraint to get the test done before the transport came to take the tests away – any minute now I was told. I had to keep talking myself down from that stress and the meaningful part of that was that I DID it. Another meaningful moment to savour. This technology is definitely a challenge for this older person, and what can be a breeze for a younger person, can wind up the cortisol levels of someone like me.

 

I’m grateful that I have the skills to be able to wind the stress back down. There was a time in my life when I didn’t know it was possible. I allowed the daily challenges to make me anxious, I allowed the unknown to dictate how I would feel. I have also learnt that my biology is responsible for some of that hypersensitive reaction so rather than judging myself I cut myself some slack, breathe into the situation and receive the meaningful learning from each situation that develops.

 

Enjoy your own meaningful learning each day!

Are You Trying to be SomeoneYou Are Not?



“Change occurs when one becomes what she is, not when she tries to become what she is not.”  Ruth P Freedman

It’s interesting that the person who wrote this quote used the term, ‘she.’ I know her name would suggest that life would be seen through the eyes of the feminine, so I understand that. Over the years I have grown up to hear the masculine in generalized comments. The feminine made me sit up and look at this quote differently. I have just spent the weekend teaching a class of women how to extend their acupuncture knowledge into the field of cosmetics. When I started this it was of interest value, but because it didn’t feel like the medical background that I was in, it felt a bit frivolous and that we were buying into that narrative that we need to look a certain way. However, fairly early on, I had a client who helped me see how much this form of ‘treatment’ was as important as psychotherapy.

We may decry the ‘beauty’ industry, we may think it’s shameful & even sad that women are being encouraged to believe that the way they look on the outer surface is so important. Of all the busy professional women on my course over the weekend all of them admitted they don’t make enough time for themselves. They loved the opportunity to be the one who was being nurtured, even if for such a short time. Yes they all had some improvement on how they looked after their 2 sessions, but the underlying experience was the relaxation and sense of wellbeing that came through. If we don’t have some sort of practice that we do regularly, we start to run on empty. Some choose massage, some go to the gym, while others might sit with friends over a lovely meal. We are all unique and how we want to fill our cup up will vary. Some of that is our biology and some of that is the environment we have been brought up in. The ‘skin deep’ approach can be looked down on by some. I ask you to think about how we can all be the person inside if we feel better about the person we are and not judge ourselves because we are having a facial, spending a lot of time on exercise or eating food that we know isn’t necessarily good for us. All these ‘addictions’ we are told, are because of the past experiences and therefore our beliefs about ourselves.

Enjoy doing what feels good (as long as it’s not harming others)

Do You Listen to the Negative Naysayers?



“Someone’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality.”   Les Brown

For those of you who haven’t seen or heard of Les Brown, I invite you to look him up on you tube. He is a very powerful motivational speaker who was brought up by a woman who took children in to care for them. She worked in homes of the rich to get enough food on the table and clothes for these children to wear. Some of the homes gave her left over food and clothes knowing what she was doing. Les had to go out of his normal classroom regularly for special/extra tuition. One day he had a locum teacher who wanted to know why he was leaving the classroom. Les said he was going to special work because he was ineducable. The teacher then said the words of this quote and continued to support this young coloured boy to reach his potential.

I had the pleasure of being at a training in the states where there were possibly 100 in the room and I was at a table in the front. As Les paced backwards and forwards in front of us explaining the techniques of speaking, he suddenly stopped at our table and thumped his hand down as he said, “On your deathbed, do you want your dreams and desires to come around and say, we came to you , for life and now we must die with you.”

This was an incredibly emotional moment for me – a moment of looking at the opportunities that I had and hadn’t taken on, throughout my life to that point. If you were asked that same question, what do you think your response would be? We can all remember things we have done we haven’t been proud of and at the same time feel we can celebrate other things. Life is about growing to the potential that each and every one of has. What are you doing to become the person you know is more like the potential you think is in there? Where are you turning away, when those opportunities pop up? Where are you getting in the way of your own potential? We are at a very pivotal moment in history. A time to reflect on what could we be doing to leave a legacy.

Enjoy reflecting on your life!

Are You Growing or Stagnating?



“If you are dedicated to your growth, then you must become committed to managing your bad experiences as well.”   John Maxwell

Most of us on a conscious growth path are aware of certain things we think we need to do. And by conscious in this instance, I’m meaning by design as opposed to by default. Are we making a conscious decision to eat better so that our health improves, are we exercising, even if that means a walk around the block, are we getting enough sleep. And this last one is huge for our growth in the sense of the cell repair etc that goes on in the hours of lying horizontal and getting our brain into the right wave patterns. I have heard, over the years, that the sleep you have before midnight, is the most important. That may be true for some biological types and not so true for others. For some going to bed early and getting up early can stress their biology which then makes it hard for their systems to function optimally. But for others going to bed early and getting up with the birds to go to the gym, is absolutely the best thing for their biology.

But I digress, that is not where I had intended to go with this. We might look around and see people who are successful and not see the drama and setbacks they have had to get there. Recently I was introduced to an image of 2 people underground digging with their pick axes. One had turned back and obviously given up with a thin piece of ground between him and his goal. The other was still digging with obvious enthusiasm and one assumes that he is going to keep going until he gets to his goal. Which one you are could possibly be determined by the passion you have for what you are doing and the WHY behind what you are aiming to achieve. Do you know where you want to grow, who you need to be to get to your desired place, or what the actions are that you need to take to make that happen? The Law of Attraction is a big part of anything we do, and we also need to take inspired action to be the person we want to become in order to achieve our desired outcome. Obstacles may only be a test of how much we really want to grow in a particular way. They may be a way of diverting your energy to change direction even just a few degrees!

Enjoy growing, you may be closer to your dreams than you thought!

What Do You Suck At?



“I just give myself permission to suck….I find this hugely liberating.”  John Green

I wanted to find a quote about anxiety to support mental health awareness month, although it could now be over. Whether the stresses of life appear to be external or not, the internal perception has a big part to play in how we react to those stressors. We may allow ourselves to be miserable about something that happened in the past that we wish we could do again. We may look forward to a future that looks bleak and want to control the outcome so that things feel better. Whichever way we look if it’s not focused on the present then we have no way of tuning into how we are feeling in the moment and therefore how we might change it if we don’t like what we are feeling.

Choice has a big part to play in how we are feeling. We can wind up our reaction to the ‘triggers’ of someone else’s comments or behaviour, or we can choose a different perspective that makes us feel much better about ourselves. Just like the author of this quote. For those of us invested in putting on a front to the world that we have it all together, it may be hard to own up to the fact that actually there are some things that we suck at. When we can accept that part of us & love that part, it can take a big load off the mind and emotions. It takes a lot of energy to keep those realities hidden. When we can authentically let down the barriers and walls, there is nothing left to hide so no fear of being found out and it can free us from the anxiety that has been plaguing us.

Enjoy giving yourself the permission to suck!

Are You Living in the Present Moment?



“If we cling to the idea of hope in the future, we might not notice the peace and joy that are available in the present moment. The best way to take care of the future is to take care of the present moment.”  Thich Nhat Hanh

In New Zealand we have a public holiday today to respect the New Zealanders who fought in the World Wars for a future that many of them never got to live. But it has been a future that we have been able to enjoy. While we are in the peace and joy of our moments we are putting out an energetic frequency that affects the whole world, so what better time than right now, to do as much of that as we can, to affect the outcome for the future of our world.

Now more than ever we need to show love for ourselves and those around us so that will beam out into the universe. We will all benefit right now and that light energy will lift the world into a higher vibration. If you are interested in understanding more of this concept, David Hawkins wrote a book, “Power vs Force,” that you may enjoy. When I pulled out the book to make sure I was correct about the title & spelling of his name I read the ‘comments’ on the back cover. Mother Theresa said, “A beautiful gift of writing….You spread joy, love and compassion through what you write. The fruit of these three is peace as you know.”

Let us all enjoy living peace and joy in our moments!

What Are Your Intentions For This Special Day?



“You cannot change anything in your life with intention alone, which can become a watered-down, occasional hope that you’ll get to tomorrow.  Intention without action is useless.”  Caroline Myss

Think back to yesterday.  What was your intention to do with that day that would never come again?  Did you take action on your plans – even if that was to take time out to do something restful, relaxing and charging of the batteries?

Yes I know it can be overwhelming when we look at our to-do list even on a Sunday, so keep the intentions to a list that could be achieved in a day.  Then celebrate your achievements.

As well as intention of what we want to do, have you thought about how you want to ‘be’ in the day you have ahead of you?  And if so, do the 2 lists match up.  Are you happy, grateful and compassionate or are you so busy ‘doing’ that you don’t have time to smile or say hello to a stranger. I’m amazed at the number of people who don’t even have the energy or inclination to smile at me when I say hello as I pass on my walk around the streets or on the beach.

I recently did a short challenge type course that talked about ‘segment intending.’ This meant breaking the day up and having positive intentions with each block as opposed to a generalized intention for the day.

Enjoy living with intention and action!

Caroline Myss is a medical intuitive, prolific writer and international speaker with work that really makes you think.

Are Your Habits Ruling Your Life?



“Habits are safer than rules, you don’t have to watch them. And you don’t have to keep them either…. They keep you.” 

Are your habits keeping you?

I am in the midst of preparing a Mater Class that I will run at the end of the month. In that I mention habits or patterns of behaviour that are being driven by our subconscious minds. Sometimes it is a behaviour we have been taught by our parents & we actually don’t realise that there is in fact another way to do things. I found this out when I yelled at a teacher & felt the shame of exhibiting a behaviour that was not allowed in our house. Only to find our years later that the teacher just accepted it as behaviour from a little person having to learn how to manage her emotions.  She didn’t regard it as shameful. We can also have habits we develop to protect ourselves & really we don’t need them anymore.

We can have habits that we are happy to keep, and there are some that we really want to let go of but the conscious mind isn’t strong enough to ‘muscle’ it out. Like smoking or wanting to lose weight, the subconscious wins a lot of the time. So we have to be sneaky to slip under the radar so to speak. When I first started doing my coaching training we had to look at a list of limiting beliefs and pick one that resonated. It was then suggested that that we just say the opposite. “No way.” said my subconscious, “I don’t believe one piece of that.” Later I learnt a tapping technique, to go ‘grey’ rather than black or white, by saying I choose to believe….. It’s not such absolute language & somehow it tricks the subconscious. Often we feel pleased we have got the upper hand on that one, then something else crops up, or something big triggers us again. This is apparently lifetime work folks – if you come to coaching I don’t expect you to come for life. We can learn skills that we practice going forward.

Enjoy changing those habits that you don’t want to keep you anymore!

With the Easter Break, did You Find Time to Dream?



“A vision is not just a picture of what could be; it is an appeal to our better selves, a call to become something more.”  Rosabeth Moss Kanter

Have you a vision of who you would like to be or a life you would like to have?  This is more than a goal.  A goal could be to clean out the garage on a rainy day, hardly something inspiring for your life.  But that goal could be a step along the way to reaching the vision of how you see your life.

Just as we have been taught to write our goals in the present tense, we can write our vision as though we are living it right now.  The subconscious doesn’t have a concept of the future, it accepts the instructions as though you are living your dream in the present.

As you build this picture with words or as some do, a vision board of images that represent your dream life, remember some questions that need to be asked.

Is this dream worthy of me, do I want to give up my life for trying to achieve it.

Does my dream make me feel alive?  If not you will give up at the first hurdle.

Is it in line with my core values, do you know what they are?  You certainly won’t achieve something that doesn’t line up with what you believe about life.

Is this dream going to require me to grow?  Everything in nature is growing all the time.  It won’t stimulate us if we’re not growing.

Do I need help from a higher power?  Whether that be from another human being or whether you need intuitive guidance.

Is there some good in my dream for others?  A beautiful garden can be a real sense of joy for people walking by.

You need to answer ‘YES’ to all these questions.  If not you may need to go back to the drawing board and work out where the changes need to be made for you to grow into your vision.

Enjoy constructing your life!